The Pronoun “They”: a Little Track and Sign

The Pronoun “They”: a Little Track and Sign

 

I have several friends who are genderqueer. I have recently learned to use the pronoun they instead of she or he. There are a few hidden gems here, a few insights I’ve had about this.

The first insight is this: the words they, them and their typically refer to people in plural. Using they for an individual bridges the separation between the many and the one. We all contain multitudes within us. God has multitudes within God.

The second insight is this: that we welcome the stranger. They is used to speak of people, whether plural or singular, who we have not met yet, but who we know we are about to meet; “I heard there’s a new classmate in town and I don’t know who they are, but I will soon.” When we use they for an individual whom we know and love, we cannot speak of the stranger in completely alienating terms.

The third insight I like the most. They is the pronoun to speak of all collective groups of people who are both kin to us and those who we call outsiders. But if I call a my friend they, I must not alienate anyone, any tribe or any individual whom I once called a stranger. The Other becomes the Beloved.

I think it was Jesus’ ability to see marginalized people as the beloveds of God which made him the Child of God. Speaking of our friends who are genderqueer as they, –as they wish– may turn out to be a little track and sign of the Divine.

“Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.” –Hebrews 13:2

 

 

 

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Published byAmber MV

Amber MV holds a BA in Creative Writing and English from Southern New Hampshire University and is a graduate of Anake Outdoor School at Wilderness Awareness School.

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